Stop Looking—Just Know

“My father never spoke in parables, but his hands told stories clearer than any sermon. In wood, he found truth. In silence, understanding.”


The sander thrummed in my grip, its vibration crawling up my forearm like a pulse, like memory. Mahogany dust hung in the warm air, rich and sharp, smelling of patience, of near-perfection, of something earned slowly. I squinted down at the wood, hunting for signs, imperfections, symmetry, meaning. Something to tell me when it was done.

“Stop looking at it. Just know.”

My father’s voice cut through the hum, gruff, worn down to its grain, like the oak he often worked. He didn’t look up from his bench. He didn’t need to. His hands knew. They didn’t check, they remembered.

“I think it’s good,” I said, uncertain.

He rose, slow and deliberate, the way old trees lean into wind. His back bowed from years bent over benches, bent over mistakes, bent over life. He crossed the shop floor in three quiet strides, no level, no square, just his fingertips, feathering over the surface like a blind man reading truth in the dark.

“No. That ain’t done.”

It felt smooth to me. But to him? The wood whispered back its flaws, imperceptible ridges, tremors in the grain, a pencil line-thickness of error only muscle memory could detect. I went back to the sander, gentle now, like I was coaxing a secret out of the wood rather than forcing it to speak. Too much pressure and it would burn. Too little and it would never sing.

Then again, without a word, he stepped beside me and raised his hand. Stop.

He’d felt it. Counted the strokes in his mind like a musician keeping time. Knew the moment, the weight, the balance. As if the timber had confessed and he’d forgiven it.

“That’s good.”

And it was.

This was his craft. His religion. A German-born finish carpenter who once built coffins and guitars. His hands didn’t guess, they remembered. They didn’t calculate—they knew. I learned there at the hem of his apron, wondering if one day mine would speak too.

Years later, I run my fingers along a cabinet face in someone else’s home. The ghost of his touch moves through me. The grain is smooth, ready. I don’t have to look.

I know.


8 responses to “Stop Looking—Just Know”

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  2. My dad’s family is German, Woessner, and Steinlen plus a few other names. I like your blog. It’s sehr gut. 😀

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  3. My papa was a carpenter in fact he made my first desk. Sanded it stained it as I watched in amazement. He taught me to do the same even though I will never be as skilled as he was. I can make bunkbeds, tables, chairs and such but he was the real deal. 🙌🏻 Patient and kind and moving with generations of knowledge that was passed down to him. your piece today was not only well penned as always but brought me down memory lane and I loved it. Thank you 🙏🏻❤️‍🔥

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    1. wow what a great memory! fellow carpenters I love it! Thanks JAM

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  4. What a lovely testament to the wood working expertise of your father. Do you still have any of the pieces he made? I bet they are cherished if you do.

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  5. You took me to my happy place with this one- felt like I was at Literature class, being read a story by one of the greats… lost in the storyteller’s world. At once, both the student marveling, revelling at the lines, and the teacher understanding, explaining the characters, the images, the metaphors- and in both roles applauding that fabulous climax, that like the mentioned ‘ghost’, lingers with the impact only the richest storytelling can leave.

    Took some time to post a draft I only just managed to complete, and so glad to have got to visit your work. Will revisit to read your other posts with the attention they deserve as soon as I’m well.

    Warmest regards, Wilhelm!

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    1. Your words truly humbled me—thank you for such a generous and thoughtful reflection. To know the piece resonated with both the reader and writer in you means more than I can say. I’m so glad you’re writing again, and I look forward to reading your work when you’re ready to share more. Wishing you strength and creativity as you continue healing.

      Warmest thanks,
      Wilhelm

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      1. Very kind, look forward to catching up with all your posts I’ve missed as and when I can.

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